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Father's Day, and Madeleine
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Happy Father's Day, at least to those in the UK!

We're taking Dad out for lunch.

In other news...

As I suspected might happen, I couldn't put the story about Madeleine down for long. I ended up reading the remaining half last night, until gone midnight.

It continued to be a hard read, and I had tears in my eyes repeatedly as I finished it. In a way I felt like I owed it to the McCanns to finish it, and understand their story. I honestly don't know how they had the strength to recover from some of the situations that occurred, nor how the British public were hoodwinked by the tabloids into believing all sorts of stories.

It reinforces an already concrete belief that tabloids are utter bilge, and even mainstream news needs to be looked upon with a critical eye. It also goes to show how police forces in other countries can be shockingly bad, and both disinterested in actual justice, as well as plain corrupt. It also highlighted the venomous minority that are always out there, albeit versus the kinder silent majority. Worse than the venomous minority of course are those who perpetrate these crimes. What evil vermin they truly are.

Like all missing children around the world, I hope the McCanns find Madeleine, and get closure.

There were a couple of passages about how people judge others that hit home:

"Judging others and expressing those opinions is part of human nature, it seems, but it's astounding how some individuals feels entitled to do so, and with such vitriol, from a position of total ignorance."

"The last few years have been a crash course in the complete spectrum of human nature and one lesson I have learned from it is never, ever to judge. There are no 'right' or 'wrong' responses in any case. To judge in ignorance is conceited, inconsiderate at best."

If only a large section of humanity could also learn these lessons.

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I really do hope they get closure, somehow.

However, saying that: I don't understand the need to go out for a meal while leaving your children in an unfamiliar room all by themselves, regardless of how often you're popping back to see them. Had it been a room in a hotel, and they were down in the bar/restaurant... I'd still be uneasy. I always remember one comment about the story whenit first came out -- had it been a mum of four on benefits who'd gone out and left her kids at home, she'd be facing prosecution. They are both intelligent, successful people -- and sometimes I think they're the worst for having any kind of common sense until it's too late.

It's a really hard one to call. Kate McCann goes into enormous detail in the book, as you can imagine, including several maps. They were 50m from the apartment, checking every 30 minutes etc. etc. (some of which has been reported in the press). I suppose they just felt safe. Would I do that with Amélie? No. Have other parents done similar? I'm sure they have.

She repeatedly emphasises that in her view they did nothing overtly wrong (their friends were all doing the same), and while a lot of the blame has been cast at their feet, it's ultimately the abductor that is to blame. And of course she still feels enormous guilt, irrespective, something that she'll have to live with for the rest of her life. They did meet both the police and social services in the UK, and neither felt they should face any form of charges. Hindsight can be an awful thing I guess.

I struggled with their religious feelings, which Kate McCann only really covers from her perspective. They focused a fair bit of their time on praying and meeting religious readers, with the almost obsessive though to start with that prayer was going to save her - the more people she got praying, the more chance of her being found. I'm an atheist though, so it's inevitable that I'd fail to understand some of this. I can appreciate that her faith helped her during difficult times, although I'm sure it hindered also. Gerry's faith was certainly shaken due to what happened, and he's less of a believer on some levels according to what she wrote.

There was something else that bothered me as well, but I've forgotten it for the moment.

I do think that Kate McCann is right though, that way way way too much of the emphasis was placed on them, rather than the abductor.

It's doubtful I'll ever read the book, to be honest, but I can imagine that it is very informative about the details. I don't know, though -- I feel that distance is irrespective, they were such young children and left alone for such a selfish reason. They didn't deserve this to happen to them, however, and yes, hindsight is awful. When you're on holiday, you tend to feel like you're in the best 'place' in the world (psychologically, if not physically).

I have to admit that I was one of the people who suspected if they'd done something inadvertantly themselves, and then panicked. the more time has gone by, though, the less I think that could be true -- they seem very genuine, and it would take a certain class ofperson to carry out an act for that long and under so much public scrutiny, a large amount of which they've garnered themselves as part of their campaign to find her. I do feel for them; as a mother, I can only imagine how horrific all this has been, and continues to be as there's no closure at all.

I know my sister has done similar when she's been away, and probably worse than that when she's been at home. We're all different, we allthink we're doing the best we can at any one time, and usually, we are. If anything, I wish I could magic up a special clock for them, to let them turn back the hours to that unrotunate night and let them change their plans.

Yep, it would be something to be able to turn back time to that night, and confront who did it. The continual not knowing must be soul destroying.

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