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Do you think people perceive you differently to how you perceive yourself?

I'm sure people perceive me as introverted, sad/depressed, and unsocial. Whereas I can be anything but these things (at least in my head). Even at the worst of times I'm a frustrated extrovert/social/happy person. Hmmm, on the other hand several people have *told* me I'm extroverted and social.... pah. Liars, all of them!

Meanwhile the anger is boiling (for known and unknown reasons. I say unknown reasons because this level of anger cannot be accounted for with the single known reason). I have to drive to bloody Guildford to this last fucking VB tutorial so the disorganised organiser can tell me what the last two messed up exercises are supposed to mean and whether I qualify for having reached advanced level. All that way to have this simple question answered. If this guy doesn't give me an answer it will be death by Snickersnag!

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Depends how you mean. I think I'm often misunderstood by people on LJ, particularly with my sense of humour.

It was perhaps more an abstract real life (non-LJ) related question. I guess you answered the LJ part of it, but do you have a similar feeling to a lesser or greater extent that people misunderstand you (or what you perceive of yourself).

Not at all. In "real life" I feel one of my strongest qualities is my ability to communicate extremely well. I have the ability to read people's reactions and body language, and the confidence in my ability to trust my instincts. Obviously I'm not infallible, and at times I get it wrong, but on the whole I'm right. Now, because I'm receiving all of these signals from people, I can adapt the signals I give out to ensure that I'm communicating on someone's wavelength.

On a closer, relationship based level, me and Sara have a good level of communication. I explain how and why I do the things that I do so that she understands fully. I have no problems in telling her anything, and she doesn't have a problem in telling me anything.

On the whole, I don't consider myself to be misunderstood in real life at all. Believe it or not, I don't hold myself in particularly high regard, mainly because of a lot of things that have occured in my past, but that's beginning to change sue to a variety of factors. Each success that I have builds more confidence in my ability, and the errors that I make are becoming less frequent, and more easily learnt from then forgotton, which after all is the best way to deal with errors.

That's all good and healthy stuff. It's great to have a working and communicative relationship. Equally great to have confidence in yourself and to build upon that. I would love to be in a similar position :-)

Since I only qualify as an LJ person, as opposed to a real-life-person-who-knows-you person, this may not mean much, but... introverted? No. Unsocial? No. And no more sad and depressed than any of the rest of us are from time to time, and if you can't be sad/depressed in your LJ, what good is it?? :)

Where'd you get that idea anyway?

Hmmm, it's just one of those self-fascinating topics that buzzes around in my head :-) I am always intruiged to know how I am perceived by other people (possible overtones of paranoia here). At the same time I am frustrated that my body and mind sometimes can't convey what my mind wants to, if that makes sense. I would like to be an incredibly eloquent socialite, but sometimes become a rather shy mumbling fool. I guess everyone has this, so it's probably a rhetorical question.

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