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Oh the irony... or is it just a horrible coincidence.

I know a girl who works for Autodesk Brazil. We've never met, but she's lovely. An architect. Totally my type, and I find her very attractive. We talked before on IM.

Suffice to say she IM'd me again today and we are just really clicking, flirting, even joking about coming to visit each other...

(lets face it, this isn't an everyday occurence for me)

... and I go to see Isabelle in 30 minutes. I feel confused and like a traitor! Aaaaaaagh :-(

Lets be realistic. I can't have a relationship with a girl in Brazil... can I?


I can't help but think of something an old professor at University told me. It was regarding jobs. He said if I got a job offer, however lousy, I should take it even if there was the promise of something better. A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush, so to speak.

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I thought about saying something about long distance relationship and how in the world could you have a relationship with someone you've never met. But that thought lasted for all of a half second. Because I remembered an lj friend. Who started an IM relationship with a guy from AUS (she's from San Francisco) and they met and are now married. And I'm sure there are many other stories.

I'd say follow your heart.

Yeah, I have a very sensible friend who met his wife over IRC. She was in the US, he was in the UK, and Brazil is closer. They're married with kids now :-)

Luciane was talking about visiting the UK. I'll take it from there I think if she comes.

First, you're not a traitor - this is only your second date with Isabelle. You may even decide not to go out with her anymore after tonight.

That bird in the hand advice is *not* good advice when it comes to girls. We don't want to think that we are "a bird in the hand"... we want know/think that we are special to you. If Isabelle's not special to you, let her go, move on. Take a chance on the girl in Brazil. Go with your gut.

Yeah, it was a flippant remark, but I couldn't help but be reminded of it. I guess my intention was that I wasn't going to ditch Isabelle on the promise of someone I haven't even met.

I'm trying to learn about myself and relationships with Isabelle. tbh I think she's pretty lukewarm about me as well, but I'll see where it goes.

I had a long-distance brouhaha [bad word choice, but I wanted to use it anyway] with a girl in Texas for a while, and I can't say I encourage it too much. Eventually, really twisted, dependent, messy patterns in behavior emerge...

Maybe mine was a weird example, but... England to Brazil? I dunno...

I think anything is possible if two people want it enough.

I had a long distance relationship with a girl in Switzerland, and the only reason it fell apart is because she was mad :-)

As mentioned before I have a friend who met his now wife over the Internet. She lives in the USA and he lived in the UK. They decided to meet for real and got on fantastically well.

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